I was just taken under the wing of another dom, due to my previous one being neglectful. I'm happy with the new dom in my life but is what I did considered betrayal my community standards?
Actually I think it’s safe to say that anyone in the community would pat you on the back and congratulate you on having the confidence and strength to know when to get out and find someone who deserves you.
If anyone has a problem with you seeking safety and happiness…
Also, important about why GSM/GSRM is an incredibly flawed term to refer to the LGBT+ community:
Lars Ullerstam, who coined the term in his 1966 book “The Erotic Minorities” included and defended pedophilia and incest - equating it with homosexuality and transgender people.
So yeah! REALLY FUCKING AWFUL TERM TO USE TO REFER TO THE LGBT+ COMMUNITY
so it was coined 47 years ago
would anybody TODAY still use GSM to include pedophiles?
back then being homosexual was considered an illness and nobody considers it one NOW do they
Yes because GSM is used in academic/research settings to include anyone from pedophiles to fetishists to swingers to fundamentalist Christian sects that promote men marrying multiple women.
hope that helps!
reblogging this because
do not refer to me using the term GSM/GSRM
do not do that ever
just wanted to let folks know there’s a new acronym floating around. MORGA, marginalized orientation romantic and gender alignment. I first found it here
doesn’t look like it has any problematic origins so far. it’s all encompassing so you don’t have to worry about adding every orientation like with the LGBT+ one. and it’s something people can use if they’re uncomfortable with the word queer, as well as so cishet people can avoid using a reclaimed slur
“Look, if posing naked were empowering, then the rich men who run the world would be lining up for it. We would be awash in naked dick shots of Warren Buffet and Bill Gates and Barack Obama; magazines would be filled with male politicians and financiers and moguls with their bits hanging out. Softly lit, perhaps; head coyly tilted, bunny tail on the ass. Power.”—http://www.reclusiveleftist.com (via endporn)
pacific rim: a summer blockbuster in which empathy is more important than physical brawn, in which defending the lives of innocent civilians is more important than a demonstration of military might, in which a woman of color is given a complex arc and backstory, and in which a scientist with a disability helps save the world.
There always seems to be an abundance of people in need of links as to why the asterisk after trans is transmisogynistic or just flat out unnecessary so I browsed Google for a while and found some good explanations about why we should stop using the asterisk.
College is not for everyone! I recently had to take a leave of absence from school because of a family illness but also because college was becoming too much for me. It makes me mad that I had to do this and if I had taken a year off from school after high school I feel like I would have been more prepared. But because I was told that if I don’t go to school right away I would never go, I was scared that I would be working a minimum wage job my whole life so I went to a four year school and within the year and a half I was in school I changed majors twice and now $35,000 in dept. I had just turned 18 two weeks before school started and I was still immature. I am now jobless not going to school and now I need to start at another school before September or my loan bills will start coming in and only I am responsible for them. So please talk to your school councilors and your parents to see what you should do if you feel like you are not ready. I did not listen to my dad who knew I was not ready and now I am in this position.
you all deserve someone who isnt embarrassed to love you and tells all their friends about you and saves your selfies, good and bad to look at when they miss you and loses sleep to talk to you and tells you how much they love you. i hope you all find that!!
“Yes, it’s wonderful to see a woman modeling a menswear collection, but I’d like to see the 201 version of this, as it were. I’d like to see a woman with stereotypically feminine features modeling menswear: I’d like to see a curvy girl with cupid’s bow lips sashaying down the runway in a suit. I’d like to see a woman with big breasts strutting through a print campaign in men’s vests and ties. For that matter, I’d like to see a hairy, muscular man wearing dresses in women’s print ads. I’d like to see a bearded male model on the runway for a womenswear collection.
And I would like to see these design decisions played not as novelties or something to laugh at, but as legitimate expressions of fashion and commentaries on fashion and gender. I would like to see designers exploring the full range of the human body, rather than limiting themselves, and in the process limiting their audiences, too. Society takes cues from fashion, and the heavily gendered nature of fashion is a pressing issue for those who don’t fit within the narrow confines of what is ‘acceptable’ in terms of physical appearance.”—
“We tell each other to “come as you are” into a big, rainbow-decorated family, but we, who are neuro-typical, do not always make proper accommodations for our neuro-diverse siblings, or don’t always check our privileges. We may even roll our eyes when one of our queer siblings “forgets” to leave their depression, anxiety, PTSD, OCD, bipolarity, or other illness at home. I too have rolled my eyes before, reducing another person’s struggle to “extreme sensitivity” or “unnecessary drama”.”—To Be Queer, Black, and “Sick” | Autostraddle (via brutereason)
A former Miss Kentucky winner came forward as queer this past week as a response to a court ruling striking down the state’s ban on same-sex marriage. She was Miss Kentucky in 2010 and finished in the top 10 in the Miss America pageant the next year.
I can’t do justice to her words with a summary, so here’s the best of it:
“I am queer,” wrote Djuan Trent on in a recent post on her blog, Life in 27.She then reported hearing many antigay comments in the wake of the federal judge’s ruling.
“What has prompted my writing today has been my questioning people’s constant assumption that a) I am hetero and b) I concur with their views,” she said.
It’s obvious to people who meet her that she’s black and a woman, she commented, “but sometimes, I forget to put the ‘QUEER’ stamp on my forehead on my way out the door in the mornings. So, on the mornings that I forget my stamp, I have realized that there is really no way for people to know that I disagree with their views or, even more so, to know that they are talking about me, unless I actually open my mouth and say it.”
She went on, “Ideally, I would love to one day live in a society where coming out is no longer necessary because we don’t make assumptions about one another’s sexuality and homophobia is laid to rest.” But society is not there yet, so she calls on others to make their presence known: “People can’t know that their best friend, brother, sister, co-worker, neighbor, news anchor, favorite singer, or local coffee shop barista is being oppressed and denied the rights [of] their heterosexual counterparts … unless you open your mouth and say it.”
You know what my favorite part of this is? “I am queer.” How often does anyone say that so bravely in the public eye? Congratulations to her!
it takes ten seconds to tag something and forty five minutes to hours to calm down from a panic attack. think about that for a second
and totally feel comfortable enough to ask me to tag something that bothers you bc there are so many things that trigger people that i wouldn’t even think about and i’m sorry if i do that but let me know!
Please tell me if you need something tagged. Please please please. I will without any hesitation.